Friday 11 August 2023

BRUTAL…. these words from actor Anthony Hopkins:

BRUTAL…. these words from actor Anthony Hopkins: Let go of people who are not ready to love you. This is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do in your life and it will also be the most important. Stop having difficult conversations with people who don’t want to change. Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything possible to gain the appreciation of those around you, but it’s a drive that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health. When you start fighting for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you there. That doesn't mean you have to change who you are, it means you have to let go of people who aren't ready to accompany you. If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and life. The truth is, you're not for everyone and not everyone is for you. This is what makes it so special when you find people you have matching friendship or love with. You will know how precious it is because you have experienced what isn't. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them you are going to meet at your level of interest and commitment. Maybe if you stop showing up, you won't be sought. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship ends. Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing that sustained it was the energy that only you gave to maintain it. That's not love, that's attachment. It's giving a chance to those who don't deserve it! You deserve so much more. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, as both are limited. To the people and things you give your time and energy to, will define your existence. When you realize this you start to understand why you’re so anxious when spending time with people, activities, or spaces that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be near you. You'll start to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, where only people "compatible" with you are allowed. You are not responsible for saving anyone. You're not responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life! You deserve real friendships, true commitments and a complete love with healthy, prosperous people. The decision to distance yourself from toxic people will give you the love, esteem, happiness and protection you deserve

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