My husband cheated on me after 31 year

My husband cheated on me after 31 years (3 adult kids) and told me the reason is "he stop loving me a few years ago". He's been with a married OW for 11 months. Should I divorce or not? After 31 years of marriage, this is not a small decision, and nobody outside the relationship can tell you definitively whether you should divorce or stay. What matters most is understanding what you want for the rest of your life. Your husband’s honesty about falling out of love may hurt deeply, but it also gives clarity about where the marriage currently stands. The real question is not only whether he cheated, but whether there is still respect, accountability, remorse, and willingness from both sides to rebuild the relationship. Some couples survive infidelity through counseling, transparency, and genuine effort. Others realize the emotional connection has already ended and choose separation peacefully and respectfully, especially after the children are grown. Before making any decision: Take time instead of reacting from shock or pain. Protect yourself emotionally, legally, and financially. Consider marriage counseling or individual therapy. Ask yourself honestly: if the affair ended tomorrow, would you still want this marriage? Staying is not weakness, and leaving is not failure. After 31 years, you deserve peace, dignity, honesty, and emotional security—whatever form that takes for you