Adversity Leadership – Part 11: The Sinking Facts by Flt Lt Sonali Shirpurkar

Adversity Leadership – Part 11: The Sinking Facts Flt Lt Sonali Shirpurkar(Retd) CFTP, CPD (UK) Flt Lt Sonali Shirpurkar(Retd) CFTP, CPD (UK) The Adversity Aviator - Adversity Leadership & Behavioral Transformation Facilitrainer | Founder Upskill With Sonali LLP | Leadership Excellence Award | Keynote Speaker | Mrs India Adventerous | POSH | Author June 18, 2026 April 14, 1912. The Royal Mail Ship (RMS) Titanic was slicing through the frigid waters of the North Atlantic. It was the largest, most luxurious ship afloat. A triumph of modern engineering. Declared by the world to be practically "unsinkable." It was a routine maiden voyage with a grand vessel steaming toward New York. Until 11:40 PM. An iceberg appeared out of the darkness. A collision occurred. And in less than three hours, the pride of maritime engineering was at the bottom of the ocean. The Illusion of Invulnerability Unlike Flight 1549, where adversity struck out of nowhere, the Titanic’s leadership had warnings. Lots of them. Seven wireless ice warnings were received that day alone. The hazard was known and the risk was clear. Yet, Captain Edward Smith and his officers did not slow down. They did not increase lookouts. They maintained a breakneck speed of 22 knots into a known ice field. Why? Because overconfidence blinds us to risk. When you believe your system is flawless, you stop looking for threats. The Nature of False Security Adversity doesn’t always arrive as a sudden lightning strike. Sometimes, it is built slowly through complacency. And when the crisis finally hits, arrogance is stripped to its core. No reputation matters. No technology saves you. No status shields you. Just reality. What Caused the Catastrophe? It wasn’t just a block of ice that sank the Titanic. It was a breakdown in adversity leadership. The command structure failed in three critical ways: They denied reality until it was too late Even after the impact, there was a costly delay in recognizing the danger. Precious minutes were wasted before ordering the lifeboats to be prepared. They complicated the execution There was no clear crisis plan. Lifeboats were launched half-empty one with only 12 people despite a capacity of 65 because the crew had never conducted a single evacuation drill. They allowed rigid hierarchy to dictate survival Instead of universal leadership, organizational bias took over. Third-class passengers were left trapped below decks, proving that in a crisis, a fractured culture leads to fractured outcomes. The Hidden Layer of Failure What emerges : Leadership behavior in a crisis is contagious. The confusion on the bridge travelled to the crew, and then to the passengers. Because the leadership lacked clear, decisive communication, panic and inefficiency ruled the night. They had lifeboats for 1,178 people. They only managed to save 705. The Outcome More than 1,500 lives lost. Not because the iceberg was unavoidable, but because the leadership was unready. What This Means for Us? Most of us aren’t commanding a cruise liner in an ice field. However, we do captain organizations, teams, and projects. We face our own "icebergs" every day: A market shift we chose to ignore. A warning sign from a team member we dismissed. An overreliance on past successes. A belief that our business model is "unsinkable." When you are at the top, the question is not: "How great is my track record?" The question is: "Am I humble enough to respect the risks in front of me?" Leadership Reflection Do I heed early warning signs, or do I sail ahead regardless? Have I prepared my team for a worst-case scenario, or am I relying on luck? Does my organizational culture protect everyone, or only a select few? Adversity doesn’t care about your past achievements; it only tests your current humility and readiness. Final Thought Anyone can lead when conditions are perfect, but true adversity leadership requires you to respect the environment. If you build a culture around the myth that you cannot fail, you guarantee that you will not know what to do when you do. Sometimes it is important : Slowing down the ship… before you hit the ice. What is the "iceberg warning" you might be ignoring in your business today? #AdversityLeadership #CrisisManagement #RiskMitigation #ExecutivePresence #HumilityInLeadership #LeadershipDevelopment #Titanic Lessons Upskill With Sonali LLP Flt Lt Sonali Shirpurkar (Retd) The Adversity Aviator

God grant me the Serenity

Good Morning!!! God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and Wisdom to know the difference. Thy will, not mine, be done. *~*~*~*~*^Daily Reflections^*~*~*~*~* June 18, 2026 A FELLOWSHIP OF FREEDOM . . . if only men were granted absolute liberty, and were compelled to obey no one, they would then voluntarily associate themselves in the common interest. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 50 When I no longer live under the dictates of another or of alcohol, I live in a new freedom. When I release the past and all the excess baggage I have carried for so very long, I come to know freedom. I have been introduced into a life and a fellowship of freedom. The Steps are a “recommended” way of finding a new life, there are no commands or dictates in A.A. I am free to serve from desire rather than decree. There is the understanding that I will benefit from the growth of other members and I take what I learn and bring it back to the group. The “common welfare” finds room to grow in the society of personal freedom. ************************************************** TRUTH, the Liberator............ How truth makes us free is something that we A.A.'s can well understand. It cut the shackles that once bound us to alcohol. It continues to release us from conflicts and miseries beyond reckoning; it banishes fear and isolation. The unity of our Fellowship, the love we cherish for each other, the esteem in which the world holds us -- all of these are products of the truth which, under God, we have been privileged to perceive. Just how and when we tell the truth – or keep silent – can often reveal the difference between genuine integrity and none at all. Step Nine emphatically cautions us against misusing the truth when it states: "We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." Because it points up the fact that the truth can be used to injure as well as to heal, this valuable principle certainly has a wide-ranging application to the problem of the developing integrity. GRAPEVINE, AUGUST 1961 * ‎Traditionally, (By AA Traditions) a self-diagnosed alcoholic is bestowed the facility to declare his own membership in the AA fellowship. No one else can make that declaration for him. Non-alcoholics cannot become members and do not enjoy the same privilege reserved for the real alcoholic. That is why it is imperative for a candidate for AA membership to self-diagnose his own condition. If he does not, then other people will tend to rise to the occasion, jumping the gun, making the determination for him – based upon THEIR diagnosis of him. Having none of the intimate, deep, secret details of his life story that only an individual can hold for himself, others can only frequently err. And they do. This is one of the chief reasons that AA has currently become top-heavy with non-alcoholics believing themselves to be members when in fact they are not. They have not even been self-diagnosed and self-qualified. They haven’t even been shown how! Instead, many have allowed other “members” to tell them that they are alcoholic “when they say so” – without having followed the BB directions for self-diagnoses. This is tantamount to OTHERS telling him whether he is an alcoholic member. It is *egregious and ruinous to a once wonderfully spiritual fellowship. It has turned it into a secular, share-athon, ineffective and rudderless self-help social club without its own Primary Purpose. Robbing an alcoholic, the precious gift of self-discovery of his own truth is a travesty. Daniel J Schwarzhoff‎ - Recovered Alcoholics * egregious - Conspicuously and outrageously bad or reprehensible "an egregious lie" ************************************************* Surrender Master the lessons of your present circumstances. We do not move forward by resisting what is undesirable in our life today. We move forward, we grow, we change by acceptance. Avoidance is not the key; surrender opens the door. Listen to this truth: We are each in our present circumstances for a reason. There is a lesson, a valuable lesson that must be learned before we can move forward. Something important is being worked out in us, and in those around us. We may not be able to identify it today; but we can know that it is important. We can know it is good. Overcome not by force, overcome by surrender. The battle is fought, and won, inside ourselves. We must go through it until we learn, until we accept, until we become grateful, until we are set free. Today, I will be open to the lessons of my present circumstances. I do not have to label, know, or understand what I'm learning; I will see clearly in time. For today, trust and gratitude are sufficient. ******* Just considering...................... SUNLIGHT "It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. To the precise extent that we permit these, do we squander the hours that might have been worthwhile. This business of resentment is infinitely grave. We found that it is fatal. For when harboring such feelings, we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the Spirit. The insanity of alcohol returns and we drink again. And with us, to drink is to die." Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 66 Thought to consider.............. "I have been given a quiet place in bright sunshine." Bill W., Box 1980: The AA Grapevine, Jan. 1958. The Language of the Heart, p. 238 Topic Question: What do you do to combat resentments? © Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. * Anger toward a parent is how the seed is sown. It is the moment of the initial invasion and no one, not a single human being who has ever lived, will live, or lives today can avoid it (with two historical exceptions) or become happy until they forgive their parents. First Dad, then Mom - in that order Each time the thought of what they did, how they did it and what happened, as a result, arises it should elicit an opportunity to love and not judge. When memories – even those going back decades provoke the temptation to become upset are not met with neutrality, then bitterness rises and gets stuffed. You can never get well while suppressing anger that way – and parents don’t even have to be present or alive for those memories to harm a person. The memories of dead parents destroy children who hate them from the grave. But if we forgive (not hate) them on the spot – as many times as the temptation to become bitter arises, 1000 times day for a lifetime if necessary, we can expect to have a long, and healthy life. That is because once we have learned to live without embracing anger; we cease feeding a despicable Self, and Its insatiable appetite for judgment and playing God. That temptation to hate parents, even though we may hold fond memories for them – never ceases – and we are always to be on guard – in other words, awake and conscious – or else we are doomed. If you cannot forgive your parents, you will never be able to stop hating others as you go through life. And that is a life unnecessarily overwrought with sorrows and pain. Daniel J Schwarzhoff ********************************************** In A.A. no one is ever required to do, or not do anything. STEPS TEN AND ELEVEN INVENTORIES I ask that my Higher Power guide me through this meditative and constructive review of the day, being careful not to drift into worry, remorse (which means regret) or morbid (which means unhealthy and unproductive) reflection: 1. Did I start the day in prayer and meditation? 2. When facing indecision today, did I ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision? If I did seek God's help, did I then relax and take it easy, constantly reminding myself I am no longer running the show? Theirs is a big difference between "making it happen" and "letting it happen". 3. Was I resentful, selfish, dishonest, or afraid today? Was I prideful, angry, jealous, or anxious? When these things came up, did I at once ask God to remove them? After seeking God's help, did I then resolutely turn my thoughts to someone I could help? 4. Was I thinking of myself most of the time or was I thinking of what I could do for others, of what beauty, truth and love I could pack into the stream of life? Were there any cases where my ancient enemy, rationalization, has stepped in and has justified conduct which was really wrong. Was I tempted to imagine that I had good motives and reasons when I really didn't. (I should carefully examine my motives in each thought or act that appears to be wrong. In most cases my motives won't be hard to see and understand.) 5. Did I "constructively criticized" someone who needed it, when my real motive was to win a useless argument. Or, the person concerned not being present, did I think I was helping others to understand them, when in actuality my true motive was to feel superior by pulling them down. 6. Was I depressed and complained I felt bad, when in fact I was mainly asking for sympathy and attention? (This odd trait of mind and emotion, this perverse wish to hide a bad motive underneath a good one, permeates human affairs from top to bottom. This subtle and elusive kind of self-righteousness can underlie the smallest act or thought.) 7. Did I avoid falling into worry, remorse or morbid reflection today? (These things diminish my usefulness to others.) 8. Did I hurt someone I love because they needed to be "taught a lesson," when I really wanted to punish? 9. Am I keeping something to myself which should be discussed with another person at once? (This includes secrets, inappropriate thoughts and behavior, etc.) 10. Did I set right all new mistakes as I went along? Do I still owe an apology? 11. Was I kind and loving towards all today? In other words, who did I not love today? (Including myself.) Did I constantly carry the vision of God's will into all of my activities? Did I say to myself many times today, "How can I best serve Thee, Thy will (not mine) be done."? 12. Did I remember that real tolerance of other people's shortcomings and viewpoints and a respect for their opinions are attitudes which make us more useful to others? 13. Can everyone rely absolutely on anything I say? Did I continue grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty? 14. Did I pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action? 15. In what ways did I forget that love and tolerance of others is our code? 16. Did my actions today indicate that I have ceased fighting anything or anyone? 17. Is there something I could have done better during my day? Learning daily to spot, admit, and correct these flaws is the essence of character-building and good living. An honest regret for harms done, a genuine gratitude for blessings received, and a willingness to try for better things tomorrow will be the permanent assets I shall seek. Here I need only recognize that I did act or think badly, trying to visualize how we might have done better, and resolve with God's help to carry these lessons over into tomorrow. After making my review, I now seek self-forgiveness, God's forgiveness, and now ask for God's help about what corrective measures should be taken and to give me the power to carry it out. Having so considered our day and having searched our hearts with neither fear nor favor, we can truly thank God for the blessings we have received and sleep in good conscience. Barefoot Bill A.S.A.P. Always Say A Prayer ********************************************** Nothing happens unless first a dream. --Carl Sandburg What do we see when we daydream about the future? Is everything much better than it is now, or are we still struggling with the same issues? Are we dreaming about what we really want or about what we think we want? Do we see the whole picture or just a piece of it? Do our daydreams match our goals? Actions we take today affect how we live tomorrow. If we know what we want – if we listen to our heart's desire, write down our goals, and keep them in mind with every action we take -- we create our dreams. We turn our wishes into goals and our goals into reality. Today I will visualize the life I want. ******* Just a thought.............. "The unity of Alcoholics Anonymous is the most cherished quality our Society has. Our lives, the lives of all to come, depend squarely upon it. We stay whole, or AA dies. Without unity, the heart of AA would cease to beat; our world arteries would no longer carry the life-giving grace of God; His gift to us would be spent aimlessly. Back again in their caves,

STEP BY STEP

Good Morning!!! STEP BY STEP Around the Year with Emmet Fox June 18 When you are praying for your true place, it is well to remember that the full demonstration may not come in one move, but more likely after a series of stages. Now, if you despise these intermediate steps, and think "this is a little better, but it is not really what I want," you will keep the demonstration back. Neither should you accept a small improvement as being all that you can hope to get. The scientific attitude is to see the stepping stone as stepping stone, to bless it, and give thanks for it, and to continue praying for the next step. “For precept must be upon precept . . . line upon line here a little, and there a little” Isaiah 28:10

Why do Asuras (demons) always pray to Brahma or Shiva? Why do Asuras (demons) always pray to Brahma or Shiva?

Why do Asuras (demons) always pray to Brahma or Shiva? Why do Asuras (demons) always pray to Brahma or Shiva? Demons ( Asuras ) and Gods are siblings. Their father is same Kashyap Prajapati. Demons were under the wrong notion that Vishnu killed their ancestors and is the cause of their problems. Vishnu killed only demons who are harmful to the society and good people. They wanted some powers to trouble the devotees of Vishnu as they cannot do anything or attack Vishnu. Whom they can request?. Only Brahma and Siva can give powerful boons. When even bad person does severe penance and worship a perticular God, God has to fulfill the desire of that person. That is the value in turn to the penance. So naturally Brahma and Siva sanctioned boons to demons. There is a beautiful information in Bhagavatam: Kamsa did not know where Krishna—the one destined to kill him—was growing up. Consequently, dispatching demons in all directions, Kamsa issued the following command: "Wherever the Vedas, cows, Brahmins, asceticism, and sacrificial rituals (Yajnas) are present, there Sanatana Dharma flourishes. And where Sanatana Dharma flourishes, Vishnu resides. All these elements constitute the very limbs of Vishnu; indeed, Vishnu *is* Sanatana Dharma. To strike a blow against Vishnu, one must destroy Sanatana Dharma. This means eradicating the Vedas, cows, Brahmins, asceticism, and sacrificial rituals. Go forth and destroy these things everywhere!" Even today, those who advocate for burying or burning Sanatana Dharma are doing precisely the same thing. They propagate the narrative that the Vedas are the root cause of social unrest, and that the caste system—which they claim has corrupted society—originated solely because of Brahmins. They engage in the killing and abuse of cows, and they campaign to discredit sacrificial rituals, labeling them as unscientific. Demons are also ordinary people but with Demon quantities and thinking. Subhamastu

God grant me the Serenity

Good Morning!!! God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and Wisdom to know the difference. Thy will, not mine, be done. *~*~*~*~*^Daily Reflections^*~*~*~*~* June 17, 2026 DEEP DOWN WITHIN US We found the Great Reality deep down within us. In the last analysis it is only there that He may be found . . . search diligently within yourself . . . With this attitude you cannot fail. The consciousness of your belief is sure to come to you. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 55 It was out of the depths of loneliness, depression and despair that I sought the help of A.A. As I recovered and began to face the emptiness and ruin of my life, I began to open myself to the possibility of the healing that recovery offers through the A.A. program. By coming to meetings, staying sober, and taking the Steps, I had the opportunity to listen with increasing attentiveness to the depths of my soul. Daily I waited, in hope and gratitude, for that sure belief and steadfast love I had longed for in my life. In this process, I met my God, as I understand Him. ***************************************************** Alone No More Alcoholism was a lonely business, even though we were surrounded by people who loved us. But when our self-will had driven everybody away and our isolation became complete, we commenced to play the big shot in cheap barrooms. Failing even in this, we had to fare forth alone on the street to depend upon the charity of passers-by. We were trying to find emotional security either by dominating or by being dependent upon others. Even when our fortunes had not totally ebbed, we nevertheless found ourselves alone in the world. We still vainly tried to be secure by some unhealthy sort of domination or dependence. For those of us who were like that, A.A. has a very special meaning. In this Fellowship we begin to learn right relations with people who understand us; we don’t have to be alone any more. 12 & 12, pp. 116-117 As Bill Sees It, p.252 *~*~*~*~*~*~* The pain of leaving those you grow to love is only the prelude to understanding yourself and others. –Shirley MacLaine Love yourself. Accept yourself. Be honest about what heals and helps you. Then you’ll bring your healing gifts to others. Your life will be a gift to the world. –Melody Beattie * There is no written 10th step in "Alcoholics Anonymous.” Four and eight are the only written steps. In fact, you MUST NOT get involved in writing it. Step 10 is watching negative emotions in real time as they occur. Introducing a "written" version to this process guarantees you'll never develop the ability to "watch." People who write 10th steps are doomed into a vicious cycle of non-neutrality. Written tenth and eleventh steps is rewriting the Big Book. These people think they have a ‘better’ way. They don’t. Daniel J Schwarzhoff This is just an opinion....... ......ignore it if you must...... *************************************************** Feeling Good Having boundaries doesn't complicate life; boundaries simplify life. There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good. When we are willing to take some risks and begin actively doing so, we will enhance the quality of our life. What do we like? What feels good? What brings us pleasure? Whose company do we enjoy? What helps us to feel good in the morning? What's a real treat in our life? What are the small, daily activities that make us feel nurtured and cared for? What appeals to our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical self? What actually feels good to us? We have deprived ourselves too long. There is no need to do that anymore, no need. If it feels good, and the consequences are self-loving and not self-defeating, do it! Today, I will do for myself those little things that make life more pleasurable. I will not deny myself healthy treats.

RAISE THE SHADES

Good Morning!!! RAISE THE SHADES Around the Year with Emmet Fox June 17 We do not have to create good. We do not have to persuade God to be Love, or Life, or Truth, or Intelligence. We do not have to ask Him to remember us. We could not ask for any good. Fundamentally, evil is a false belief about the power and availability of good. If we draw down the shades in every room in a house, that house will be in darkness, and is likely to become damp and unhealthy as well, no matter how brightly the sun may be shining outside. Salvation consists in raising these shades and opening the windows—then He does the rest. “… walk as children of light”. (Ephesians 5:8).

I'm 31 divorced woman

I'm 31 divorced woman with a kid living with my father house first ask me to divorce but now he is against of everything i want to marry a man but my father didn't agree with it. I'm living like hell in this hours but I can't ruined my child education and life feels stuck