I'm 38. I've been married for 15 years and have3 kids. My husband is 50. First few years of marriage we were fine though he had exhibited some red flags which I ignored thinking that maybe it's one of those things couples go through with. My husband uses money without consulting with me. Sometimes he would lie to me that he didn't receive his salary he would hide his payslip from me. I would later find the payslip with his full salary. He would apologise and I would forgive him. He continued using finances anyhow but I kept thinking he would change. Last year he took loans up to a point were his salary was a minus. He never told me about the loans till I asked to see his message from the bank that's when I discovered that he had no salary at all,just a minus balance. We argued over the issue and I later found out he had not been paying fees for our kids. He asked for my forgiveness but I was hurt and I told him I wanted a divorce because I was tired of him being an irresponsible husband. Later on I decided to give him another chance. We sat down and came up with a plan to clear up all his debts but he messed up the plans again and said he was sorry. He went on to take another loan again behind my back. Just 4 days ago I discovered he even applied for another loan again behind my back. I'm just tired. We've sought counselling before but he just lies to the counsellor with a straight face. Would I be wrong if I divorce or separate from him for a while? 565.4K views View 4,851 upvotes View 144 shares

I'm 38. I've been married for 15 years and have3 kids. My husband is 50. First few years of marriage we were fine though he had exhibited some red flags which I ignored thinking that maybe it's one of those things couples go through with. My husband uses money without consulting with me. Sometimes he would lie to me that he didn't receive his salary he would hide his payslip from me. I would later find the payslip with his full salary. He would apologise and I would forgive him. He continued using finances anyhow but I kept thinking he would change. Last year he took loans up to a point were his salary was a minus. He never told me about the loans till I asked to see his message from the bank that's when I discovered that he had no salary at all,just a minus balance. We argued over the issue and I later found out he had not been paying fees for our kids. He asked for my forgiveness but I was hurt and I told him I wanted a divorce because I was tired of him being an irresponsible husband. Later on I decided to give him another chance. We sat down and came up with a plan to clear up all his debts but he messed up the plans again and said he was sorry. He went on to take another loan again behind my back. Just 4 days ago I discovered he even applied for another loan again behind my back. I'm just tired. We've sought counselling before but he just lies to the counsellor with a straight face. Would I be wrong if I divorce or separate from him for a while? 565.4K views View 4,851 upvotes View 144 shares. My husband is 50. First few years of marriage we were fine though he had exhibited some red flags which I ignored thinking that maybe it's one of those things couples go through with. My husband uses money without consulting with me. Sometimes he would lie to me that he didn't receive his salary he would hide his payslip from me. I would later find the payslip with his full salary. He would apologise and I would forgive him. He continued using finances anyhow but I kept thinking he would change. Last year he took loans up to a point were his salary was a minus. He never told me about the loans till I asked to see his message from the bank that's when I discovered that he had no salary at all,just a minus balance. We argued over the issue and I later found out he had not been paying fees for our kids. He asked for my forgiveness but I was hurt and I told him I wanted a divorce because I was tired of him being an irresponsible husband. Later on I decided to give him another chance. We sat down and came up with a plan to clear up all his debts but he messed up the plans again and said he was sorry. He went on to take another loan again behind my back. Just 4 days ago I discovered he even applied for another loan again behind my back. I'm just tired. We've sought counselling before but he just lies to the counsellor with a straight face. Would I be wrong if I divorce or separate from him for a while? 565.4K views View 4,851 upvotes View 144 shares