My wife had a secret affair with a man for 5 years

My wife had a secret affair with a man for 5 years before I found out. Can she really stop seeing him again? Very unlikely. I’ve been in an affair for a very long time (longer than your wife’s). I have even left him for long stretches of time, he has tried to leave me to “work on his marriage”. We always end up back together. This is painful now. I’m sure it’s excruciating. However, you’ll later see all the ways you weren’t compatible that are difficult to analyze now because of the shock. It’s very hard to accept that a person you love deeply is capable of hurting you in such a deliberate manner- at first. Take care of yourself and don’t swear off love for life because of her. Someone out there will love you the way you should be loved.