I am having an affair and don't want my husband to find out. What do I do?

I am having an affair and don't want my husband to find out. What do I do? Im conflicted. Because you know that ole adage, what's done in the dark blah blah blah. So here goes your only 2 options: Leave your husband to find the woman who will truly love and honor him. Cause let's face it, you've proven not to be her. Stop having the affair. Now see the thing about this choice is that it dont guarantee he wont find out. You of all people should have realized by now, and ESPECIALLY based on your own actions, that people and their actions CANNOT BE CONTROLLED. (You never know a person til you live with them - in your case you never know a person until you share a secret with them. And the thang bout secrets is that the person with the least to lose holds the power. Make of that what you will but I hope you saw something deep in that sentence. Now. It would be remiss not advise of a third option. But given your behavior, I doubt that you would be brave or honorable to do it. Let alone the sincerity and accountability one would take if this option was chosen. Respect him enough to tell him the truth and accept his response/choice. Sure the respect comes too little too late but at the very least, it could show that you sincerely are out of the business of causing further harm. Its not an easy thing to do. But trust me, that level of accountability is LIFE CHANGING.