I have cheated on my husband but successfully ended the affair.

I have cheated on my husband but successfully ended the affair. I feel guilty whenever I see my husband, should I come clean to him? It goes without saying, but it is entirely a matter for you. However, some statistics, which may assist in your decision making. Couples where there has been a voluntary disclosure have a 57% chance of still being together 5 years later. Whereas, perhaps surprisingly, those who keep it a secret or it remains a hidden truth, have only a 20 % survival rate . 84.6 % of men who commited adultery remain married ,as opposed to 68% of women when they were the guilty partner. Therefore it is clear that men are less forgiving of adultery than women. Fully absorb and remember that. However the attrition rate within 5 years is very high. Despite the high percentage of couples who remain together following adultery, only 15%–25% achieve true “emotional healing”, which equates to long term thriving, true and meaningful reconciliation, restored trust and happiness. This outcome can only be achieved by professional help, full disclosure and accountability. I fervently wish people would consider the devastation adultery causes. Whether you choose to confess or not , I would counsel you to search your soul and honestly determine the reasons for your betrayal of your husband and marriage vows. Once this is complete,do all within your power to remedy the issues. If you decide to confess, carefully consider the effect on your husband, choose the location and time with great care. For the person one trusts and loves more than anyone else in the world, to commit the ultimate betrayal is devastating. Consider the possibility of him ending his own life.