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15 The Unseen World SO BY NOW, YOU KNOW that the power or intensity of the mind is such that if it is focused and gives a command for an action to happen, such actions manifest. The world we live in seems simple: sky above us, human life in the middle and beneath us is the solid mass, the Earth. When a boy prays to God or the Supreme Power or nature to give him a car, what happens? Here, the instruction or the energy is sent out from the boy’s mind with certain intensity; there is a certain likelihood of its manifestation. His ask from nature is for a ‘car’. Here, nature gets confused; which type of car, model, make, features etc. The world we live in has an unseen aspect too. The sky above, the brain and the mind form a continuum, sort of a ‘super sky mind’ – a dynamic entity in which there are lots of floating thoughts, problems and solutions. It is an unseen ocean. This brain is above us. We in the middle, and transact with this brain through the air. The other part of this ‘super’ brain is the Earth. Now, as the boy released his wish for a car, nature take his request, the brain accepts the thought of the car but fails to manifest it in the boy’s life as the specifics are missing from the his request. Most of us don’t know how to ask nature. If you want your thoughts to manifest and make yourself a ‘wish-wizard’ then meditation and syncing with this ‘super sky mind’ is necessary. Let us visualise another scenario: Suppose the boy had been more specific, “I want a red car of this brand and this particular model.” In such a case very specific instructions would have been sent out from the boy’s mind in to the cosmos or this unseen ‘super sky mind’. The request sent by the boy’s mind is accepted and executed perfectly, but this execution follows a process. These processes are executed in real time with dynamic mind decisions taken at millions of thoughts per second. The step by step flow of the process by the cosmos would be something like this; nature would ensure that there is progress at every step • Get the design for that car ready • Material for manufacture of the car is ensured • Money or funds should be there with someone who has an automobile plant and the car must be manufactured • Once the car is ready, the car has to be transported to the boy’s location • Ensuring that the means of transportation- road structure, airways, waterways- is ready • Nature then checks that the boy should have enough money to buy the car • Fuel should be available for the car If any of the steps are missing from the process, the boy’s request gets delayed as nature takes a decision at this point to complete the missing step. Here, there one significant thing to note: we are talking about a timeframe of years or decades. So, if the boy who made this request was 17 years old at that time, and nature’s algorithm is still executing his instruction and the boy happens to make a request for something else, then this request is discarded. All the preparations nature or the cosmos made go waste. As a human’s desires change every 5 minutes, most never get what they ask of this ‘super sky mind.’ This is the unseen world or the floating mind above our body. The human body is a ship, a one of its kind ship. It would seem very strange to many people, but inside this ship is the energy that can travel in space or water or anywhere else in between, through the power of the mind. This energy is capable of travelling at a speed many, many times the faster than the speed of light. It is possible to travel around the world and the Universe keeping our body (the ship) safe and secure at some place; we can travel with our mind to distant places and explore those secrets in time. The mind just needs an address to go, close your eyes and you will be there. Through our mind we access the minds of others beings. The human mind is such a powerful engine that it can generate a magnetic shield around the body and teleport itself or become invisible. Certainly, all this sounds like science fiction, but is entirely true. There are a few people with some special abilities who claim to travel this way and some live in secret silence, with all this knowledge. The power of the mind is amazing, such that the logical mind cannot justify its working.

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16 Terraforming the Mind THE NAME OF THE CHAPTER, ‘Terraforming the Mind’ may seem odd. Terraforming is a term used with reference to planets; meaning to make other planets just like the Earth, habitable for humans. So, is this concept really valid? How can one make the mind like the Earth? The question appears peculiar. The Earth and all human life is made up of the same 5 basic elements that exist in nature. This is an established fact. The five elements are: 1. Air (Vayu or Hawa) 2. Water (Jal or Paani) 3. Space (Ether) 4. Fire ( Agni) 5. Earth (Bhoomi) To terraform the mind means to align the mind as per earth’s condition or align the mind as per nature. Nature or Mother Earth gives in abundance to everyone without discrimination. Humans on the other hand are selfish beings, exploiting nature at a rapid pace. This is the paradox; being made of the same basic elements, how are the two so different from each other? As I delve deeper, I realize that people of today definitely need to terraform the mind. Here are some questions that I have often pondered over: Why can’t people become like the Earth? Selfless, with abundance, fair in every aspect, without any discrimination. What stops them from being like nature? Why are people are so selfish? Why do so many negative emotions develop within people? Nature has gifted humans with a mind. But humans have used the mind against nature (most of the times) and are destroying nature by taking it for granted. What humans do not realise is that every small element on the planet has a direct impact on the human mind. Nature is pure, original and always gives 100 percent to everything, be it a flower blossoming or an animal giving birth. Nature is so intelligently designed that it has its very own way to create, protect, teach, nourish and destroy everything. It is a process of complete recycling; from creation to maintenance to transformation. But the sad part is that humans ‘wear’ their mind on their face, on their body. Your body language will reveal what goes on in your mind. A judgemental or an egoistic attitude will always show up no matter how much you try to mask it. They have lost the original being. I am looking for the original human being. A person whom you don’t like comes towards you and there your mind goes towards negative thoughts. You wear a fake smile or extend a fake greeting, but the interaction will be unsatisfactory. The same goes for each human gesture and body language. We are our natural selves when we are born and stay that way until someone teaches us otherwise. Then we end up becoming someone else. This kind of wrong teaching in childhood is crippling society. We are one and the wrong concepts built in the mind have divided people and dissected the human race into various sub sections. The most wonderful aspect of nature is that everything happens on time, with many surprises every second in every part of the world happening simultaneously. The same happens inside of the human body. Innumerable things are going on inside the human body. It’s a complete factory run by an intelligence designed ingeniously by nature. Here is a simple and beautiful example of nature in action: A baby rabbit is born, it’s a celebratory moment. But nature is cruel to many animals upon their birth. The eyes of the rabbit remain closed till a certain number of days. So here my query is: How does the new born rabbit know where the mammary glands of the mother are? What it is like? To my surprise, nature has the answers and the ways to teach them, so they are able suckle with eyes closed. Looking at this is so peaceful. One cannot but help admiring nature – an intelligent, omnipresent force. When nature is always there for everyone, then why do only humans suffer terrible fates? Why don’t people realize that nature is there for them also? Nature is taking care of them and will continue to so. One can terraform the mind by being in knowledge, meditation and yoga. Humans are a small entity in this vast Universe and the blue planet, though an essential part of the planet. A strong mind never gives up. Be like Mother Earth, the blue planet Earth: happy, colourful, full of variety, abundance and fair in all the aspects.

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14 What are you good at? I USUALLY GET LOST WHEN people ask me, “What are you good at?” This question makes me think of what I am best at, or what special quality I have. I have spent my childhood studying, college years becoming an engineer and finally adulthood surviving a job in the engineering sector. The only question that vexes me is: What is my purpose on this planet earth? Why I am here? I did my graduation in Electronics and Communication Engineering but I was dragged to the information sector, as jobs in this sector, probably the programming field (Computer Sciences) are assured. I followed the crowd, cracked the national level competitive exams and earned my post graduate diploma in System Software design. This field is well respected and huge but the reality turned out to different. I was unable to break through the interviews as I was from an electronics and communication background, not computer science. So I could not match pace with computer science graduates who could build programs just like that whereas I would take 3 days to write the same program. Out there, there are many friends, who have studied one subject but they work in some other field. Their field of study is not reflected much in their work. I have a friend who is an electronics and communication engineer but she work as an air hostess. There are many people, who have studied a particular subject, but are working at some unrelated job, just surviving. After such jobs and decisions, when one takes a break in life or life itself gives a break to the person by making him jobless, he then wonders what his purpose is. Where should he be? Why can’t God just tell me what I am good at? Then I would do just that from my birth and excel in my field and enjoy working in that field. I would enjoy life rather than surviving, hopping from one department to another. In order to go to yet another department, I have to take classes for those subjects, sit for tests and undergo training; then finally I am on board but still there is no assurance of continuing in this department. Artificial Intelligence and automation are also becoming black holes for peoples’ jobs. If I knew that I am skilled at a particular task or job, I would enhance it and develop it within myself. Where is this information hidden? I tend to read biographies of people which say: ‘A boy at the age of 8 years loved cricket and slept with his cricket bat and so he become the world’s best cricketer as he knew that was his destiny; to become a cricketer. He could only see cricket, day and night. Such was the passion. The child’s education was limited, but he started playing at a young age and made people proud. His only career was playing cricket. He did it passionately, it was what he loved. So he enjoys his life rather than merely surviving.’ There are many such examples of people who at the very young ages of 8 to 12 years know what their talent is and what they are born for. This is very fascinating. But this scenario happens, probably with only 10 in a million; maybe the number is still lesser. For the rest of the mass of population, life becomes survival and their entire life is squandered, without knowing the purpose of their existence. I personally do not want to die like this. A boy is born, studies in childhood, graduates from college, a job follows, raise a family, survey life’s journey and finally one day, die. This is happening with many of us now, right now. I ask you, “What is your purpose in life?” Is this important to know? “Yes, very important!” Why is knowing this important? That is because a human being is incomplete without a purpose. It is the nature of humans to explore and no one can take that away. At some point in my life I have asked: “What am I best at? GOD! Please direct me, help me, and give me signs.” A few observations and practices can unlock the most fundamental question: What am I good at? Below are a few indicators: Observe the child’s behaviour a few years after birth. A natural action, a habit, a pattern to particular moods, a small song, a drawing, solving puzzles; any of these can be subjects which a child’s mind accepts and the child spends most of the time pursuing that as it is in his or her comfort zone. Prepare practical games for kids and try to observe any significant traits or characteristics in the child. This could help to unlock the natural talent the child has and provide a direction where the kid can blossom in life. The possibility of obtaining results using these observations is small, but is workable. Another way out is through meditation. If a child practices meditation in the teenage year s and then there is a drift towards spiritual practices during his childhood. In such a case nature takes control; the mind, body and soul are attuned to nature and many talents emerge and are executed perfectly. Try it. You will have your answer within 6 months. The same goes for any person, no matter at what stage of life. If people try meditation they will have their answer in a few months and creativity explodes in them and miracles happen in their life.

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13 How to Access the Mind? ONE CAN ONLY ACCESS the mind through meditation – Deep Meditation. The brain is full of surprises with all its magical energies. It has the capability to run the human body and if necessary, the brain can take the human body into a state of hibernation, keeping all the cells of the body in perfect condition. This kind of life support is attained through a deep connection of with the mind. The brain has the capability to bypass the heart and still continue in hibernation, keeping the human body alive for several years. Once the brain is fully awakened or in use, it can heal the human body and even protect it with its unseen magnetic fields. The human body can cheat the law of gravity, but the compass is in the brain. One has to access that gadget to control the human body in air and keep it afloat against the gravity. The set of chemicals in the brain creates vibrations and frequencies which can sometimes access future thoughts, see glimpses of a parallel Universe, perform multiple tasks in a second. The nerve impulses travel through the neurons at incredible speeds , generating pulses of electricity. They travel at more than the speed of light and so sometimes you see visions of the future even though your eyes are open. The physical eye is not interpreting this image, but this inner vision you see becomes your focus just for few seconds. There is a high possibility to see the past and the future. This appearance of the screen or window due to high activity levels of neurons or electric pulses sometimes opens the door way to other places where the soul or mind can go and come back. This becomes teleportation ; this seems fiction and very few know it is possible and is happening in the mind. We have an amazing mind with unlocked magical powers. Only a few have access to it and most are unaware of it.

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12 Mind: A Magical Land I HAPPENED TO BE IN an unidentified realm and I would like to share my experience and talk about the people of that world. One day I woke up and found myself in a huge building, where the roof was miles away from me. There was the network of the pipes all above me. Definitely this was not a man-made place. This was what my sight was showing me. I could hear a liquid flowing in the vicinity. The liquid was red and was flowing with great speed. I touched it. It was not like plastic, though it certainly looked like it. . To my surprise it is made of flexible skin or fibre. Some various other sounds were reaching my ears but they seem like abating tunes or vibrations. This is what my ears were experiencing there. I started to feel the structure; the structure was not man-made. A few structures are thin; others are thick, grey or red in colour. Light seems to come in through a tiny gap. Moving my foot, I took a step further and suddenly my foot was in a trough. The floor also seems to be made of the same fibre and is so delicate. I am lost and in some alien structure. This is what my sense of touch was telling me. I shouted and screamed being in the structure, and I could hear my voice echo. It felt like I was stranded in an unknown place. Everything is hollow and empty here. I started to walk through the caves and after moving some distance I could see some light at the end of the tunnel. I climbed up and it was like a camera with movements from left to right and up and down too. I got a glimpse of the outside of the building. The camera appeared to move automatically and the outside scenery continued to be visible. I climbed down and ran towards another cave, seeking a way outside. I could see the light coming in from one end of the cave. I ran towards it; I could hardly walk forward as my movement seemed to be resisted by the strong vibrations coming from the source of the light; vibrations so strong that I could not take a step further. I then tried to map the area so I named canal the noisy street and the earlier place that I had checked I named as the fast moving camera. I began to run in the opposite direction, again a ray of hope surfacing as I could see light coming in and a way out too. Suddenly I experienced the same vibrations that I had experienced on the noisy street. I turned around and named it second noisy street. So basically I was back where I started. I sat down wondering where I was. No one visible, no sign boards. What is this place? I gathered myself and started my journey in finding a way out, when suddenly I fell into a long pit and miraculously, I was outside! I experienced happiness, freedom. I got up and turned back. I was stunned to see where I had got stuck. It was the large head of a person. I woke up with a shiver. Suddenly the horrific dream broke and I was in my bed. My head was still heavy. I felt I had literally experienced the inside of the mind. I wanted to jot down what had happened. I was in a strange place. Now I can relate my experience to something more concrete. The first noisy street is one ear and the second noisy street is the other ear. The camera was the eyes. The fabric inside was the skin cells and skin membrane, the delicate unmanned structure. I named the characters; Ear 1, Ear 2, Eyes, Nose and Skin. Ear 1 and Ear 2: sound travels to the brain or mind Eyes: Visual scenes travel to eyes and then to brain or mind. Nose: Fragrances or smells reach the brain or mind via this character. Skin: The sense of touch and feel reaches the brain or mind. It is interesting as to how the mind functions. The characters collect the ‘food’ and deliver the data to the brain. The brain then does miracles with this data. The characters are not connected with each other; they are the source of the input of data for brain. The character does not work together . However, the permutations and combination of the data that the characters brought in are many. The brain interprets the raw data and transforms it into useful information. Each character trusts its information. Ears trust the sound sent to the mind. Eyes trust its sight and skin trust its feel. Every character’s information is true. The human mind is an amazing engine, a super computer. A person can feel or touch most of the organs of the human body. • We can touch exterior of the human body • Breath gives us the access to feel the nose, throat, lungs, diaphragm, stomach • Water and blood give us the access to feel the veins and arteries • Eyes we can touch and feel. We can also feel their movement • One can naturally feel heart due to its beating activity The only one organ we are left out is the brain. Here are a few amazing tricks to feel the brain and the mind: The refresh key to the brain: • For few seconds focus on your breath; take 4 breaths, keeping the focus on your breath. This is the refresh key to the brain. The mind travels like a pendulum from past to the future. A few minutes of this exercise will make you forget these thoughts and clear the mind. Like computers have a refresh button, for human body the breath is the refresh button. • Vibrations: If you chant a word so that it resonates within you, the vibrations reach the mind and the brain also vibrates in tune. This technique also refreshes the mind; humans cannot still feel the brain.

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11 The Power of Devotion WHEN SOMETHING IS VERY close to your heart and your actions are performed with complete effort, the results can be astounding. Pause for a minute and ponder on certain aspects of devotion; can devotion be positive or negative? The result of any activity will depend greatly upon an important parameter, which is the intensity of your devotion towards the task in hand. How passionate are you towards the particular task? If the intensity of your devotion is low, there is a lesser chance of a positive result manifesting. Everyone has a sense of devotion, check where you have it. • People live in fear – The intensity of fear is deep, hence the devotion to fear is high. This manifests and expands in your life. It takes a lot of positivity to come out of this devotion to fear. • People are lazy – The intensity of laziness is such that such people don’t feel like doing anything. Their devotion to comfort zone is high. Here, dynamism is missing from the picture. Can devotion hurt? • A boy loves a girl and has a crush on her. His love is devoted to her, but somehow the equation becomes altered and he does not find himself with that girl. So here his devotion hurts him. • A few people after losing their job, focus on their loss, their intensity of devotion becomes almost a physical pain, so they continue living in the pain of losing the job. Yes, devotion does hurt sometimes. • A student, an IIT aspirant, studies with devotion, and succeeds in joining the top engineering college in the country. • A terrorist was captured. Once he was identified, he turned out to be the master mind behind many terror strikes in the country and abroad, and was wanted internationally too. Many countries had a bounty over his head. Many people had lost their lives because of him; many lost their brothers, sisters, husbands, sons, daughters. This kind of news is reported everyday in every news paper. When I was younger, I used to ask my mother, “Mom, these terrorists kill people. Then why does God give them success in their activities?” At that time I never got a satisfactory answer to this question, but now I have. The factor which happens to work here is the intensity of devotion. Terrorists prepare for their attacks with a high intensity of devotion towards the planning and its execution. This is one of the reasons that even though they work against humanity and takes the lives of people, God grants them success. What is the common trait between a terrorist and an IIT aspirant? The only common trait is the intensity of their devotion towards their goal. Suffice to say, devotion is neither positive nor negative. It is just the intensity or drive towards the action. That action could be positive or negative, but if combined with intense devotion, will always bear results. Friends, it is in your hands, to which action you want to give your attention, the intensity of your devotion in this life. The power of devotion is such that with increasing intensity, your thoughts manifest in real life. That feeling expands in your life, to all aspects of your life. So next time beware of the action towards which you are directing the intensity of your devotion. .

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10 Mind Patterns WE CANNOT ACCEPT failure before our opponents in daily life. That opponent could be a friend to whom we lose an argument, or opponent in any competition, whether in the field of education or games. The irony is we that we are losing every moment and every day to our own mind yet we accept this failure with great ease. When the mind is unsettled then that very day, you would have observed that you had hardly any success with your tasks throughout the day and there was little or no perfection in the tasks that you did do. The power of thinking, power of intention, power of attention, power of expression, power of manifestation of thoughts in life, and intuition, all stem from the mind- the main power house of the body. On this planet earth we are surrounded by so many different types of people. The power of the mind actually defines a person and our behaviour defines us. The people around us are the result of our mind. The power of the mind is truly exceptional. Some are slow at their tasks, some are fast and agile. Some have the best decision making skills and reasoning skills. Some take time to process information. Some make mistakes but some refrain from making mistakes. While one cannot see the mind of a person practically, the image of the mind is reflected in the actions of the person. It is strange indeed that humans have developed such intelligent machines, machines that can send measured data from the moon to the earth, but no instrument to measure the complete mind, i n all its aspects. I would like to share with you how simplistically, and incorrectly, all of us look at the mind and the brain. During childhood, we all would have studied in school and if one student excels in class the teacher would say he is ‘brainy’. The student’s mind is basically measured on the education scale. On the other hand if a student fails to achieve the required grades and needs greater assistance, the teacher then says that his grasping power is less. Or that his understanding power is less. The mind of this student is also measured on the education scale or a test scale too and people immediately stick a label to that mind. People measure others through their mind and become ‘label makers’ in the process. In reality, the human mind cannot be measured. How does a strong mind look? Let us see. A sincere, young boy Amit studies well and clears the toughest engineering test and goes on to join a renowned institution in the country. On the other hand, another boy Ravi began his college education from an institute that is not so prestigious. After few years Amit commits suicide, as he was unable to handle the pressure of studies. Ravi goes on to graduate and starts working in a small firm. So, what happened here? Both got admission into colleges. Amit ought to have less stress regarding his career or job as the best companies would come to his campus. Even if not selected, he will anyway graduate from a top college. Being in a prestigious college, Amit and his parents are happy. On the other hand, from day one, Ravi is under exponential stress as he is sure that the top tier companies won’t be coming to his college. Hence he is conscious that he should be sincere in all his work. Like Amit, he did his projects and tests very well. As he is studying in an average college, he is constantly subjected to comments from his parents about his future prospects. Of course relatives join in too. Why Amit did chose the path to end his life even though looking at his life situation externally, anyone would say there was less stress in his life? Why did Ravi continue even when he knew that in the future stress in his life would increase exponentially? Brooding over these questions is just squandering time. But yes, from the mind perspective let us reflect on the thought below: Whose mind is stronger, Amit or Ravi? Amit cleared a tough engineering exam – his mind is stronger than Ravi’s. Ravi is unable to clear the same engineering exam – his mind is weaker than Amit’s. The above mentioned statements are authentic and correctly said as there is only parameter involved: an academic test. Ravi has weak mind as far as academics go. . I need to complete the equation. There are other parameters here, stress in life, one’s own coping mechanism. One’s life circumstances can be yet another parameter. One way of looking at their lives would be: Amit’s Life Positive External Factors + Negative Internal Mechanism ----> Weak Mind Ravi’s Life Negative External Factors + Positive Internal Mechanism (X factor) ----> Strong Mind Here, Ravi has a stronger mind than Amit. The behaviour of the mind is not linear when it deals with multiple parameters, it changes drastically. This creates many permutations and combinations within those parameters. Those people, who commit suicide, fail in life and have a weak mind. I have classified the mind into two categories: Strong Mind and Weak Mind Do you have a mind like Ashish’s? A small part of the day from Ashish’s life: He wakes up in the morning, smokes a cigarette and walks around the room just to get on with his bowel movement. Without consuming a cigarette he finds it nearly impossible to complete this part of his morning routine. Here, the cigarette is an external stimulus that controls his nervous system, his mind and so becomes his habit. Everyone tells him, that cigarettes are not good for health. He knows it is bad for the lungs, his mind knows it’s bad for him. But the fingers are programmed to hold a cigarette; lips are programmed to hold it and lungs to consume it. Ashish has a weak mind and his body actions are beyond his control. The urge to smoke does not allow him to shun this bad habit. Every day he promises and commits to friends that he will shun the habit, but fails. Ashish’s body is strong which disobeys a weak mind and wants a cigarette every day. The next day he gives a commitment to himself to shun cigarettes but fails. Ashish is carrying a weak mind, he breaks his own commitments and promises, and he breaks promises and commitments given to other people. Do you have a mind like April’s? April is a sweet girl in her teens, has an auto immune disease which was diagnosed at a later stage after her both hands were amputated due to decay of the tissue of her hands. She has a short life span and she is aware of it and so she does what she likes. She is a renowned singer and has a few hit songs to her credit. In her free time, she teaches other girls a foreign language. April has a strong mind but a weak body. I am listing a few categories here, which come to my mind: 1. A weak mind and a weak body 2. A weak mind and a strong (and healthy) body 3. A strong mind and a weak body 4. A strong mind and a strong (and healthy) body Indications of a weak mind: 1. Not fulfilling promises each time. 2. Inability to keep commitments. 3. Leaving work or projects accepted half way through and jumping to another task 4. Accepting unwanted thoughts (garbage for the mind) from people 5. Continuing to live with your addictions 6. Unable to make a change in one’s life by just altering at least one habit. 7. Inability to take risks in life Indications of the strong mind: 1. High degree of commitment 2. Valuing time and other aspects of life 3. Fulfilling promises made 4. Finishing the accepted tasks 5. Developing a ‘Let go’ attitude; an acceptance towards happenings in life 6. Ability to make changes in one’s life 7. Ability to take risks in life Which mind and body are you carrying?

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9 How to Make the Mind Strong THERE ARE ONLY TWO ways to make one’s mind strong. One: When life shows you unfortunate times and pushes your mind to accept situation. When a person is bound by a situation, unable get out of it, he struggles. The desire for freedom from the situation or some kind of relief is so strong that the mind becomes innovative. Hence the mind becomes stronger. . Second: Through knowledge Here, I want to clarify, and it may seem contradictory, but an adamant mind is not a strong mind. Famous people get recognized because of their talent; this is one aspect they have, which is recognized by someone. Polishing of that talent starts before the talent is publicly announced. Such talent either gets highlighted through one’s passion or is recognized by others or it is discovered by another person. Creativity and talent are born from a strong mind, keeping the mind balanced in a highly stressed situation, by not being reactive in a situation rather analysing it with awareness. Most famous people on the planet have one common thing in their lives. They have been hit by life hard enough to push them to recognize what they are capable of. There may have been a do or die situations and that becomes their road to fame. First Scenario: A jobless person wants freedom from unemployment and hence he becomes innovative in finding ways to survive and persist. Ansh without a job for many months was under tremendous stress as life was throwing him challenges. But during this stressful period, he began thinking of making money to survive through the shortest path possible. The shortest path to do any work is minimum energy required to do the task with maximum outcome. A jobless person suddenly becomes creative and finds numerous ways to earn money. Second Scenario: Let me explain through an exercise. I am sure there are people who freak out just looking at a cockroach or a lizard. This person who loses control every time is 28 years old. He forgets that his body size is much, much bigger than the size of the cockroach. When asked why he does not like cockroaches, his answer is, ‘They are creepy with their colour and they live in drains.’ Fair enough! Fortunately for him, one incident took place. He had enrolled in a self improvement programme. Unfortunately the instructor asked the group, “How many of us here are afraid of cockroaches?” He raised his hand in reply to the question. To his surprise the next instruction the instructor gave to his assistant was to get a cockroach. The instructor asked the guy to come to the front of the group, sit on the chair and extend his arm with his open palm facing the sky. He did as he was asked to and the assistant promptly dropped a dead cockroach on his hand. The guy dropped the cockroach as soon he felt the tingling sensation of cockroach touching his hand and a shiver ran through him. In this situation, he was asked to keep the cockroach for two minutes and then he could leave. Many times he dropped the cockroach and ran back to his chair but the assistant brought him back. . Finally, to get out of the situation he said he would try one last time. So he closed his eyes to avoid looking at the dead cockroach’s colour. So shutting down one sensory perception was logical. After a few minutes and several attempts, he gathered the courage and finally could keep the cockroach for on his palm for 2 minutes. Here is his testimony about what happened through this exercise: ‘I am 28 years old and was carrying an impression of fear in me. Fear of cockroaches. But today I feel so good that I was able to break that mind barrier. Really, I felt free and it is an amazing feeing.’ How many of us are there, holding such fears and have never been given the chance to break out of that fear. In the above mentioned scenario the driving force or the impetus was an external force. Such a force pushed mind power to such extent so that one achieved that which was thought to be impossible. Third Scenario: Imagine a person is put in to a wooden box as a prisoner with just one hole in the box for air to enter. The mind of the person then scans that box from all possible angles to check which side is weak. He will scan for any cracks which he can widen by kicking from inside the box. Any loose screw he could find and could get out using the screw as a weapon to widen a hole slowly and free himself. All the efforts are to free himself. A lot of innovative ideas are generated under stress. In case he fails, he will take rest. When the mind is resting, it wanders to what he is wearing. Is he wearing something that can be used as a weapon to crack the box, may be the buckle on his belt? So this guy pushes his mind to get himself free out of this wooden box. All world records are created because people are able to push their thought process to a certain level. Pushing the mind to such an extent that you come out of the situation and feel free is an indication of a strong mind. The above scenarios were situational, forced on the mind externally. Now let’s talk about the Second Method – Knowledge If you remain centred in knowledge, combined with awareness, even if your mind tries to trick you and direct you towards unhealthy and unwanted activities, remember the knowledge will help you pull yourself in the opposite direction. Keep yourself busy with productive activities; you will not get time to indulge in unhealthy activities.

The Infinite Mind

8 Half Body or Culture of Inbuilt Talent NOTICE PERIOD IS A TIME where one is on the verge of leaving a company and moving on to the next job role either with the next job proposal in hand or even without it. The stress increases exponentially when a person does not have a job proposal in hand. The very same was the scenario for Ansh, who has survived the dry months just applying and looking for a job role, but has been unsuccessful so far, for more than 5 months now. A situation arose when he wanted to give up and contemplated suicide as he was unable to see any other way out. A loan EMI was staring at him; taken for his sister’s wedding. The loan funded the groom’s demand for a car. Keeping his sister’s happiness in mind, Ansh took the loan. He HAS to pay the EMI. With funds low and savings on the verge of depletion, his worry increases and the need for a job is increasing multifold. Ansh cannot invest any money on himself to update his skills. His parents cannot help him as he comes from a poor background. A person with such background doesn’t usually have a huge circle of friends who can support him financially and of course he cannot think of another loan. What to do now? Every door appears closed; he spends his day sitting on a corner of his bed, waiting for a job, which can help him uplift his mood. Thinking about the next meal has became very his thought process as he has to be thrifty in spending money. He has stopped socialising; he knows if he does, he will end up spending precious money. The only option seemed to be suicide. Fortunately, this option was terminated after sometime. When hard times hit a person, the first instinct is not to give in, to fight out the hard times. The person waits for some time, consoling oneself that times will change and good times will be back, and so waits for the better times; surely the unfruitful phase of life will pass. But the very same person finds the hanging rope more convenient, when this unfruitful phase of life drags longer than expected and consoling oneself is no longer working. I do remember the case of a beautiful young high school girl, admitted to a hospital due to breast cancer. One day the doctor broke the news to her parents and they faced the hardest time of their lives; the doctor told the parents that the only solution for the illness was to carry out a double mastectomy. The mother could not handle the news and became miserable thinking about the future of the girl without breasts. The parents peeped at the girl through the window, wondering what her reaction would be when they told to her what was going to happen next. How would she live her life? The long years ahead. The parents sat near the girl and told her the treatment planned, with tears all over the place. When the news was shared with her, her world nearly ended as she could not imagine her life without her breasts. Thinking about the future, who would marry her and what would her life be? And how would she become a mother? This was like taking away the gift of nature from her and her very identity as a female, which would affect the role she would play later in her life, as a mother in the future. The only option she could see was suicide to end her misery and her parents’ misery too. Suicide appeared to be the perfect escape from the people’s loose talk. People face various adverse situations in life but the train of life for some people seems to stop at this easier station ‘suicide.’ During adverse times, everyone’s attention automatically gets focused on the negative aspects in their life. They forget one very significant aspect: The universal power with humans and the direction of their attention too. If someone pays attention to the negative aspect in life, then this aspect expands in one’s life. If someone directs attention to the positive aspect in life, their life expands with positive energy. A person overlooks the positive aspect he still has in his life and jumps directly to suicide. People see what was lost in a moment and stay with it as their awareness level is low. They don’t see the talents they have and how they can make use of them. We need to inculcate a culture of inbuilt talents among people. So that during the tough phases of life, even without a job, one can earn through his or her skills and lead a happy life rather than thinking of suicide. A person who has lost his legs in a battle when he stepped on a land mine, can still live life to the fullest and contribute to society. He might not walk on the battle ground any more, but with proper training could easily help in the information technology section of the army. As long as the brain is active, you can still earn. You could write a book or a novel and later it could be made into a movie! You could be a consultant in your area of expertise. Alternately you could learn new skills as learning has no age limit. You could learn a new language and teach students and earn your livelihood and even take up translation projects. The list of choices is exhaustive. But it is because of a weak human mind that we give up easily. Unless your brain is dead and there is no breath in your body, you are still the richest person on the earth.

My husband (60) is having an affair with a 28-year-old coworker. What can I do?

My husband (60) is having an affair with a 28-year-old coworker. What can I do? High-five him! ;) Kidding. It is very odd though. I mean, a 60 year old guy high up the working world food chain + great looking for his age, would be able to get an average-looking Jane of 28 who’s not sexually conservative and wants to work her way up the food chain, too. And the older guy being married can increase interest with some, just as it can decrease interest with many. So yeah, even though this is odd and unexpected, it is technically a possible scenario. Basically you tell him you know about this, and we gotta call this marriage off. End it. Even if you doing so shocks him to not want to be in said relationship with the gal anymore, it’s still not going to solve the problem underneath it all. He’s not going to be fulfilled with your marriage down the line after said dust settles away from any current women. It boils down to the reason why he ended up not merely having an isolated incident crossing fidelity lines with a good looking woman when on vacation with some friends — but had an affair with another woman. Much bigger concept. Don’t let your defense mechanisms take you over to downplay it. Ya gotta break it off.